The musings, advice, stories, tips, and much more of a 25+ year veteran of the antiques business. From a picker to a picker/dealer, and back!
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Thursday, June 4, 2015
Picking A Relationship - The Facts.
I've neglected the blog these past few month, as "life" has been "happening".
"Bear" with me, I will explain (yes, I do that lots, I know...!)
Being a picker/dealer here in Manitoba is not an easy task...that is, IF you wish to make your living at it.
There are maybe a dozen people in the entire province who make here living on buying and selling antiques & collectibles. Part of the reason is that out of the population of 1.272 million people Manitoba holds, is that they are spread out over a substantial area, though most live in the bottom third portion of the province, and half of the entire province's population lives in the capital city of Winnipeg.
I reside 2.5 hour's drive from Winnipeg, currently.
I won't go through the soap opera that has been my life (saving that to fill up several chapters of my autobiography...), but the most recent "big" news is that I have become "single" once again.
This business is hard on relationships, pure and simple. Between differences in personalities, interests, and the fact a picker's life is lived part on the road, part submerged in junk (on the road and at home), among a host of other activities, we basically live and breath our business.
It is a passion, and sometimes it consumes us, or in the least temporarily submerges us once and awhile.
If your spouse/partner is of the same mindset, complimentary personality, you both communicate very well (even if it is with no one else than your partner!) , love history, see gold in all the old stuff, have respect for one another, and all that goes along with the "junk biz", then you might actually have a chance of being together for a long time.
But, people change, and sometimes those changes create rifts, goals shift, passion is diverted, etc.
I have seen many relationships split due to those sorts of changes. Marriages break up when one partner's interests change dramatically away from "old stuff." Your partner's passion has changed from antiques to horses, and you have zero interest in equines?
Well, prep for a divorce in your future.
I am not saying that if you partner does not live, breath and eat their dinner without attic dust sprinkled on it that your relationship is doomed. Having a complementary personality, interests, etc can work, but communication, respect, understanding, and such things are key to keeping it working.
Maybe one spouse loves dealing with the public, selling, being a shopkeeper, while the other is the "digger" of the two who sources merchandise, does some restoration, etc.
That sort of relationship can work well, too.
I won't go into any major details about my relationship, as my life is not being lived as a public figure; though I know that "public figures" tend to have private lives we never hear about, also, which is the way it should be...despite what we are lead to believe by the "car crash" type Reality TV shows. Also, my ex also deserves privacy.
We are not in a battle, nor at each other's throats, we just came to the realization that we are not meant to be together. We gave it a shot, about 8 years worth, and are intelligent enough to know when to call it quits. I am making it sound easy, but it was not a quick and easy decision.
It was the right decision for both of us, however.
Anyway, my chosen lifestyle was certainly part of the reason we have split, but it is far from the whole "reason", as life is not so easily cut and dried. Let's consider the word "reason" just a container for what is in actuality a "package of reasons."
She likes old stuff, but not in the same ways I do, nor with the same type of passion I do. To her credit, despite her having pared down her belongings to very little, and pretty much having just become "minimalist" in her living style when we got together, she jumped back into the "junk biz", though only "knee deep", which I felt was adequate, and we started a life together.
These things are always a half and half; that is, as far as any "blame", responsibility or causation for things not working goes. In some cases the "blame" may lean more to one side than another, but it is almost always not 100% one partner's fault.
In our case, I view it as a 50/50 split. I try to take full responsibility for myself. I always learn from each relationship, and I learn more about myself all the time. I deal with what I can fix in myself. I then hope to find someone else who is at the same point in their lives as I am, post experience and repair.
OK, that is enough philosophy, "mushy", and heart tugging stuff for one year, don't you think?
And now it is time to go....
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Monday, April 28, 2014
TEST - What Kind Of Picker Are You?
You are in luck...no test today!
I have found that SO many people have entirely different opinions as to what makes someone a "picker" that I simply can not create a test of any kind that will not end up taking hours of your time.
I will still continue to express some opinions throughout this blog as to what makes a picker. Sometimes I may ask you some questions that you can answer for me..so leave a comment, opinion, thought, etc, make yourself heard!
I have always considered myself a true picker. At first when people were calling me a "picker" rather than a "antiques dealer" I wasn't all that thrilled...somehow, at the time, "picker" seemed to me to be demeaning . It took a little while, but I started to realize that the dealers who were calling me a "picker" were complimenting me, rather than being negative. I was good at picking...that is what I wanted to do, anyway, not be a "dealer" sitting in a shop.
That came later. I became an "antiques dealer with a store" out of necessity, due to geographic location and the market I had access to.
That came later. I became an "antiques dealer with a store" out of necessity, due to geographic location and the market I had access to.
I did come up with lots of fresh stuff. I wanted to move it, but didn't want to get ripped-off on the stuff, either, though. A couple dealers made that mistake...assuming that I wouldn't figure out they were offering me far less than wholesale. In their arrogance/ignorance they perhaps figured their "knowledge" was worth far more than my sweat, fuel, time, energy, interpersonal skills, research skills, etc.
My knowledge base built quickly with experience. I learn fast....or so I like to believe!
So, what makes a picker, in my eyes?
Well....that is a loaded question. Whatever I answer I know there will be all sorts of differences in opinion. Besides, you need to address some other issues...mainly the fact that there is several KINDS of pickers.
Myself I have adopted the moniker of a "Hardcore Picker".
I define that as a person who makes his money in the "junk biz", mainly in the vintage end of things, but does what is necessary in the junk biz as a whole to make a living. If I need to haul scrap metal to help pay some bills, I do it. If I need to "re-purpose" items, re-market items, wholesale, hold some auctions, retail, do flea markets, etc, etc, etc to make some cash, I will. But, my main focus is vintage. I have an affinity for "junk", but vintage items have the firmest grip on my being.
So, what other kinds of pickers do I feel exist out there?
You'll just have to wait for next post to find out!
So, what makes a picker, in my eyes?
Well....that is a loaded question. Whatever I answer I know there will be all sorts of differences in opinion. Besides, you need to address some other issues...mainly the fact that there is several KINDS of pickers.
Myself I have adopted the moniker of a "Hardcore Picker".
I define that as a person who makes his money in the "junk biz", mainly in the vintage end of things, but does what is necessary in the junk biz as a whole to make a living. If I need to haul scrap metal to help pay some bills, I do it. If I need to "re-purpose" items, re-market items, wholesale, hold some auctions, retail, do flea markets, etc, etc, etc to make some cash, I will. But, my main focus is vintage. I have an affinity for "junk", but vintage items have the firmest grip on my being.
So, what other kinds of pickers do I feel exist out there?
You'll just have to wait for next post to find out!
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Friday, February 1, 2013
The Truth Behind The Junk Celebs: Danielle Colby of American Pickers
The first thing I know many of you will be wondering is:
Why is he writing about Danielle first, instead of Mike Wolfe?
Well, I'm a gentleman at heart, and thus, "Ladies First."
Anyway, no, I don't have a crush on her like half (or more?) of the show's viewers seem to. She seems nice enough, interesting enough, seems to work hard, has some great ideas, and all, but she is a Reality TV personality...thus I don't know the real her now, do I?
Besides, I am happily married.
Even though she was not....
Married, that is. (Whether it was "happily" or not is really no ones business but hers, and thus is not for me to know nor decide.)
Yes, that is correct, she was divorced . The TV interview she makes mention of that relationship here.
Shortly after initially posting this blog, I found out from another source that Danielle has re-married! Sorry to burst your bubbles/fantasies guys and gals. (yes, that is right, I said gals, this is 2012, after all!)
Her husband is now Alexandre De Meyer. Her store, 4 Miles 2 Memphis, is also selling his screen printed T's, under the "Neuf vies," or "9-lives" label.
I wish them all the best!
It does seem "Reality TV" and all it involves takes a toll on marriages, especially when you examine the track record of the reality TV "stars" and their relationships.
But, that is another blog posting entirely.
So, Danielle is Danielle. Not 100% acting, pretending to be someone else while on screen or elsewhere in the public eye, which is an action to admire. Being essentially yourself on and off screen takes guts. I realize the producer(s) of the show have some say in how she is portrayed, but compared to some of the other "reality" show personalities, she's in with the more "real" ones.
She is a proud mother of 2 children, as well. It is amazing to think that added to her family commitments, and her role on American Pickers, she has several various business/artistic/other interests that keep her very busy, including:
Burlesque - She dances under the name "Dannie Diesel" in Burlesque Le Moustache
Fashion Design - 4 Miles To Memphis - Which is also located formerly located in LeClaire, Iowa (same city as Mike Wolfe's first "Antique Archaeology" store) but she relocated it in Chicago, Illinois.
Supporting/assisting her father financially and I am sure emotionally. He is currently dealing with Leukemia.
Roller Derby - She was part of a team of ladies that rolled under the name BIG MOUTH MICKIES.
She promotes and chats a bit on her Facebook page, also.
Well, that should keep you Danielle fans busy for a bit!
Enjoy!
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Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Holy Smokes, I have FANS.....
I just noticed today I have a 22 official "followers."
Wow....I guess I am doing something right....keeping you folks entertained, anyway....word is spreading, too. Considering I don't promote the blog much anywhere, other than Facebook, I suppose that is ok. I have seen other bloggers with far more "followers", but I'm not going to stop bloggin' because I have "only" 22 and not 2200 followers.
Still, the more the merrier! Spread the word! Don't keep this blog a secret!
Also, I am on Facebook, under FEDORA ANTIQUES. I usually use my neon store sign as an "avatar":
Wow....I guess I am doing something right....keeping you folks entertained, anyway....word is spreading, too. Considering I don't promote the blog much anywhere, other than Facebook, I suppose that is ok. I have seen other bloggers with far more "followers", but I'm not going to stop bloggin' because I have "only" 22 and not 2200 followers.
Still, the more the merrier! Spread the word! Don't keep this blog a secret!
Also, I am on Facebook, under FEDORA ANTIQUES. I usually use my neon store sign as an "avatar":
Sometimes it is lit up, also....like this:
I had this sign made many years ago...well, about 13 years ago. I had a friend in the custom neon biz that gave me a decent deal...$3500, which I paid over time. It is about 3.5' or so high, and is meant to go outside. I have had it mounted on one store, for a year, and then it was put in storage....never did get it mounted on the exterior of my next shop, just never seemed to get around to it...and I was there for 4 years....
It did get put up outside, one other time (without my permission) as a prop in a movie that was filmed in Winnipeg, but other than that, it has been inside for 12 of those 13 years, which accounts for its decent condition today. These pics are actually from about when I got it (2nd pic), and after it was mounted above my store (1st pic)
Got off on a tangent again, didn't I?
So, "fans"...yes, it seems I have garnered some. Going to get a big ego! Though, I think cleaning the cats' litter boxes will bring me back to earth pretty quickly....the stench of cat urine tends to break through pretty much any dream state...
Now, those of you who do not have cats, and are not those readers who have cats and who just realized that their partner asked them to clean out the cat's litter box, and are still with me...oh wait, this is a blog, you can just stop reading and come back, can't you...? Hmm...
Ok, just for those readers who are cat owners: Those of you who have just come back from cleaning your cat's litter boxes, here is a reminder: WASH YOUR HANDS.
All clear, no litter on the keyboard, cat on your lap, all appreciative that their dirt box doesn't reek...?
Good.
Back to business.
Ok, not quite business....back to Facebook...aka "Crackbook" as my wife and others call it. So, I seem to have garnered more than just potential customers during the course of promotion of my business...yes, during my "wasting time" on Crackbook...uh, I mean Facebook. I'm coming across a few people who have expressed that they would like to meet me...not to come and buy something (though that may occur, I'd assume), but just meet me.
I assume they could accurately be called fans?
So, my "15 minutes of fame" has arrived, I guess, or started. I wonder how Mike, Frank, Danielle et al are dealing with their new found fame? Has to be a weird situation....all sorts of people saying "Hello Mike!" and you will have no idea who they are....
Wait, that already happens to me...(no, no, no, my name is not "Mike", too).....but I have always just chalked it up to having a bad memory, and poor "recognition" of the people I have dealt with in the past (or to whom I am related to and don't see that often.....)
Maybe I am famous already, and just don't remember that I am famous....or...WAIT, maybe I am on a "The Truman Show" type program....! Ok, where is that damn camera.....!!??!?
Fame...it is a weird thing.
It likely opens some doors, both opportunity wise and pickin' wise! Imagine, the AP gang has nearly 4 million people potentially looking for leads for them! I hear they get over a thousand emails a day...
Overwhelming numbers!
I can't even keep up with the leads I find myself! Mind, you, that has more to do with cash flow than lacking time to pursue leads. Although, the fact of the matter is that there are leads EVERYWHERE. It is just that many people don't recognize them. There are good "scores" to be had all over, and some in very obvious places. Sometimes the fact that it is obvious is the very reason no one has pursued the lead. EVERYONE has assumed that lead has been followed up. Odds are it has, but sometimes the odds work in your favor.
Don't assume! Like one of my high school English teachers said: Assume makes an ASS out of U and ME.
Ok, so assuming it won't make an ass out of you in this case, but it might cause you to miss a good buying opportunity in front of your nose.
Assuming may actually make an ass out of you in this business, actually. Ignoring a customer dressed in less than cutting-edge fashions may loose you the opportunity to sell pieces to the most advanced collector of art glass in the world....or meet "THE Authority" in the field of your particular collecting interest.
Many serious collectors sometimes appear as if their mothers are the ones picking out their clothing. Or, apparel is "rough" looking...sort of like what I tend to wear...worn/torn jeans, button-up long sleeve shirts (winter) and T-shirts (summer). No, I am no fashion plate.....
Some may well prefer to spend the "real money" on their passion, collecting, rather than on overpriced clothing. Or, if they are like me, they may regularly "destroy" their clothing, so tend not to spend big money on their duds. Picking the way I do is hard on clothes. I don't wear $50 shirts...oh, wait, correction, I don't wear $50 shirts unless they cost me $5 or less....preferably $2 or less!
Anyway, doesn't matter.
Surprise, surprise, I don't wear Armani suits out picking!
I WILL however, PICK vintage Armani suits given the opportunity!
Ok, ok, yes, I am getting to the point, soon....
I have gone into "hoity-toity" antiques stores, having come fresh out of a basement of some building down the street from them, and gotten some looks of suspicion. While they are keeping a hairy-eyeball on me, they fawn over the well dressed couple, who are just killing time while their take out order next door is being prepared, and who I have already overheard call the owners merchandise "overpriced old junk."
Occasionally in these shops I will spot something great, and grossly under priced, and want to see the item (if inaccessible to me)...the proprietor will then take it out of the showcase/off the back shelf, all the while showing obvious reservation. I inspect the item to my satisfaction, tell them I will take it, and pull out the cash....leaving them stumped/surprised...or closely inspecting the $100 bill I gave them.
I try to treat everyone the same, and I know it is tough. We are programmed in this world to be suspicious, always cautioned by media of all kinds...and even your own parents
"Don't talk to strangers, dear."
Hmm.....if we actually listened to that last one, we'd never make any friends now, would we?
Tough to do that in business, too...most of our first time customers ARE strangers.
One of the toughest parts of picking is approaching people...all these "scary strangers" you have to talk to that your mother warned you about...and there are some out right strange strangers out there. But, they are all just people. You will need to approach all sorts of people if you want to succeed in this business. I initially had a heck of a time at first, doing a cold call, as I was pretty darn shy guy. But, after awhile, you just go and DO IT. Yeah, sometimes you don't "feel like it", but if this is your living you even have to push yourself at those times. Take it from me, I may well have missed a score of a lifetime because I didn't "feel" like dealing with anyone at the moment I recognized the "lead".
Yes, I have blogged about it already, and it is a LONG (and sad, from my point of view!) story, so if you have no idea what I am talking about, you will just have to read farther back in my blog.
I have talked to owners of companies, and those same companies' janitors, and I try to approach them all the same....as just people.
They are not superior to me, and are not inferior to me.
Just people.
So, why is it we sometimes get all googly eyed, tongue tied, etc when we go to talk to, or approach, "celebs"? They are just people, for crying out loud.
Yeah, sure I want to meet Mike and Frank, but I'm actually interested in selling them a truckload of stuff.....I've accumulated WAY too many old bikes...and I want to get Frank collecting CANADIAN oil company stuff....you know, create a regular, new, customer! And Danielle? Sure, she seems like a cool person, we'd be happy to have her over to listen to tunes, yak, B.S. a bit with while sitting around the bonfire quaffing a few beers. Heck, I'd even offer to let her ride along on a picking trip, and give her some pointers on picking Canadian prairie style!
Am I googly eyed over her?
No.
Star struck?
Nope.
But, I have not met her in person yet. So, who knows, maybe when the time comes, my tongue will trip over itself....
That is, if I even recognize her.
That is, if I even recognize her.
I have talked to a few celebs, walked by them, stared right at them, etc, and not realized who the heck they were.
Once a guy and a local politician came into my store. The politician was in charge of promoting Winnipeg to the entertainment industry (film companies doing movies, TV, concerts, etc).
The guy and the politician inquired if I had any antique architectural items; but large stuff, large stuff, like stone sculpture, that sort of thing. I didn't have anything at the time, and suggested he leave his email address & phone number with me. The guy looked a little put off, and then the politician offered to be the go between. I thought that was kind of weird, but said ok and took his card.
I found out after they left that it was Bill Paxton. Frankly, if I passed him on the street today I STILL wouldn't know who he was!
A friend's daughter was working in their antique store when a pleasant and well spoken lady came in, who inquired if they had any of a certain pattern of china, Dionne Quintuplets items or antique snowglobes.
She showed the lady some of the inventory that met her criteria, and the customer selected some of the items.
My friend's daughter took the items to the counter, wrapped them up, and processed the woman's credit card in their manual machine, "zip-zip". (Like the sound effects?)
She gave the lady the slip to sign, and then exchanged it for the customer copy. Thanks-you's were exchanged, the bag of the items handed across the counter, and the transaction finished.
The customer walked out the door, and the clerk watched as the woman got into a limo that pulled up in front of the store.
It wasn't until she read the name on the impressed receipt that she realized who she had just served.
The impression of the card holder's name was clearly visible...and read:
Granted, my friends (and their daughter) are originally from England, and, even though they have been in Canada since the 1980s, they are not as familiar with Joan Rivers as you and I might be.
I completely understand how it is possible to miss recognizing a celebrity. I seem to do it on a pretty regular basis!
A friend and I were gabbing while standing in the middle of his downtown antique shop one day. We yakked for an easy half hour or more, while customers milled around. His wife was tending the counter and taking care of customers while we shot the breeze.
We half noticed a family of 3 leave, and then the guy poked his head in the door, to inquire about the price of a beat-up and heavily repainted Coca-Cola sign my friend had in the window. He said it wasn't for sale, and the guy went on his way. My friend keeps the sign in his window to attract attention, and it catches people's eyes so much, that it is worth more as an attention getter than what he could ever sell it for, considering condition it is in....it is all doctored up, so it looks good from 15 feet away, as people walk by, pass in their cars, and as they sit at the stoplight and gawk about.
So, we sauntered back to the counter, so he could catch up with his wife on what had sold while we were absorbed in our conversation. She then asked us if we had realized that Richard Gere and his wife Carey Lowell had been in the store shopping with their kid....
Yep, the guy who poked his head back in the door was Mr. Gere...
You can understand how it is possible to miss recognizing those celebs when you get a look at a variety of photos of them sans make-up, and in day to day situations...grabbing milk at the local convenience store, picking up a pack of cigarettes at the gas station, some diapers at their local Shoppers Drug Mart. They look pretty ordinary when it comes down to it. Put them in a large crowd, and if you were to have to pick them out, you'd have to really look & study all the faces.
On the other hand, they would have been more recognizable with a major, distinguishing, almost trademark, feature...say, a real character face (think: Keith Richard), a wild hairstyle (think Don King), a visible scar, distinctive tattoo, an extra single eye in the middle of their forehead.....well, okay, maybe not that last one.
If you are like me...well, maybe a distinctive feature won't help you recognize a celeb, either...
I had gotten a flat tire on my vehicle, on #1 Highway, the Trans Canada....the Trans Canada aka #1 Highway, is the main highway that runs right across Canada, coast-to-coast. The tire went dead flat near a set of lights, on near Portage La Prairie, within sight of a gas station. Good thing, too, because when I dragged the spare out of the back of the truck and plopped it on the ground it was flat, too.
Annoyed at my not so good luck, I half dragged, half rolled the spare, which had no obvious issues, to the gas station. As it turned out, the bays had been recently turned into a store.
So, I headed to the pay phone at the back of the store, for a phone book to find the number of a near-by tire repair shop or garage. When I got there, there was a guy yakking on the phone. He was standing over the phone, blocking my view, as well as access, to the little shelf where the phonebook sits. Even if the book was visible, usually they are tied to some cable so you can't go farther than a foot from the phone, anyway. He was absorbed in his conversation, and I wasn't about to bug him. I stood there for what seemed like eons, with as well as some other people glancing at the guy, who all seemed interested in using the phone, too.
My level of annoyance was rising, and I suspect my facial expressions and body language was starting to scream "get off the f****** phone, other people need to use it, damn it!"
Finally, he noticed I was standing there. He told the person on the other end that someone was waiting to use the phone, and that he'd call them later.
Cripes, FINALLY!
He walked away from the phone, nodding a greeting, I gave a short, curt nod back, and went to grab the phonebook...
Which wasn't there.
F***!
So, I walked over to the now not-so-busy front counter, and asked if they had a phonebook I could look at.
The clerk handed me a thick volume, and I set it down, flopped it open, and started looking for a tire shop number.
I found what I was looking for, dug out change, and called a couple numbers. Finally I got one who would come out and pick up my tires.
Satisfied, and a little calmer with arrangements made, and my blood pressure lower, I started to take a little more notice of my surroundings. Most of the crowd had cleared out, and there was a couple people chatting, something about autographs and this and that.
Wait a second, autographs? The picker in me thought "maybe a lead?"
Then I noticed these people's jittery type excitement....and a big bus outside...a bus tour maybe? Would explain why the place was hopping when I walked in....
Well, how about a TOUR BUS?
It quickly came apparent that the guy I "stared" off the phone was none other than Billy Gibbons, from ZZ TOP (only part of a long list of other reasons to recognize him - including being a prominent hot rod guy...Yes, I do really like ZZ Top's stuff....I am a 70's/80's kid, as well as being a hot rod fan).....and to top it off, here he is and he is in the same/same style (can you say "trademark?") hat that he was wearing that very day!
Yup, just people.
Amazing how I do not recognize these people, and yet I can pick out a treasure hidden amidst a pile of junk, and a treasure that everyone who saw the pile missed. A well developed skill...you might even be able to call it a talent.
And, that is what I am...just people...I mean, just a person. Yes, I have a talent. Yes, I hope to parlay it into something "more"...someday. We'll see, I am still working on it.
So, any of you "fans" (or future "fans") out there, keep that in mind. We (you, me, and the guy/gal over there) all have faults, issues, pasts, skeletons-in-our-closets, families, relatives, friends, etc, etc, etc.
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We're all just plain ol' human. Fame all depends on mere circumstances, really. Did you ever see the movie "The Postman?" Yeah, ok, I know some of you likely hate Kevin Costner's acting, blah, blah, blah...that isn't important...it is these lines that happen to strike a chord:
Costner (as The Postman): "I know you! You're....famous."
Petty: "I was once....sorta."
Then later in the movie Tom Petty says to Costner:
"I heard of you, man... you're famous! "
Costner: "Yeah, I guess I am... "
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